Fire Up the Computer – Benefits of Watching Porn Together

Things have been a little busy as of late, hence my recent absence from the blogging world. Over the course of the last month, we’ve seen summer vacations, additional summer work, career changes and more… It has been a little crazy, to say the least! That being said, things are starting to settle into a routine again, so I’m sure I will be back on here more often moving forward!

This week we had the opportunity to just relax one evening, after all the running around, meetings, work, etc. and my Dom opened up his laptop, pulling up the porn that has been catching his attention as of late. He had stumbled across some new videos out of the UK that I hadn’t seen yet.

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We sat back and watched as he shared with me what videos have him going, talking about which porn stars have captivated each of us (I have a HUGE love for Lela Star) and what our latest fantasies are arising from the videos we have been watching…. I’m not going to lie, there was also a great degree of self-gratification at the beginning and it turned into a great evening of fun sex…

It got me to thinking, porn is one topic I haven’t seen coming up as much among the many sex related bloggers that I’m following on a regular basis. Now I’m sure that there are some that are just not interested, and if that’s the case then power to you. Really, it’s a personal decision, but its something that both Dom and I enjoy. We often watch separately, sending each other links or messages describing what has caught our eye when we aren’t able to be together, but there is something even more fun about watching it together!

 

  1. A Great Chance to Share Your Fantasies With One Another.

Have you recently discovered some new fantasies that are turning your crank and sparking your imagination? Watching porn together is a great way to open the door to this conversation, and even to share exactly what’s got you hot and bothered if you find that words are failing you!

 

  1. Helps to Create Healthy Expectations Surrounding Attraction.

Ok, I KNOW there are a number of you who read that last line and were like WTF, you’re kidding, right? I am not saying that watching porn is good because your partner should expect you to always look like a porn start – what it does do is allow you to both accept that the highly-perpetuated myth that you should ONLY be attracted to your partner is nothing more than that – a myth! We are human, and we are going to find others attractive, and that’s OK! Even if you are in a committed, monogamous relationship you will, at some time, find yourself attracted to someone else. As long as you don’t act on it, you’re not doing anything wrong!

 

  1. It Allows for Quality Time Together.

Regardless of whether you are a married couple, dating, a BDSM relationship without any other labels attached or ‘friends with benefits,’ the idea of sharing experiences helps to build the friendship that is the root of any of the above, similar to sharing hobbies or interests.

 

  1. Can Make for Fun Foreplay.

The concept of foreplay is vast and individual, meaning something different for each and every one of us. Some people want nothing more than a quick kiss and off they go, while others have more elaborate ideas of what it should entail. As I described above in our recent experience, porn can be a fun addition to your foreplay – add in some mutual masturbation, allow your partner to explore your body a bit while watching or turn the tables…. Whatever works for you both as a couple.

 

  1. It’s Entertaining!

I mean really, when it all comes down to it, does it have to be anything more than that? If you are both comfortable with the idea of porn, and you both enjoy watching it then why not? Screw the stigma, the judgment and what others may think – this is your relationship and if this is how you choose to have fun together then enjoy it! You’re not hurting anyone (I mean a small bit of hurt can be fun sometimes, but not referring to that type of hurt here…). Do what works for you, and enjoy it!

 

That leaves me with just one question – Do you currently have a favourite porn star? If so, who?

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3 thoughts on “Fire Up the Computer – Benefits of Watching Porn Together

  1. I LOVE this post, Sub D! I don’t really have a favorite porn star and watching mostly spanking porn when by myself. But occasionally porn will come on the HBO or STARS channel late in the evening and Daddy and I will watch that together…I love watching him watch it and hearing him comment on what he likes and what he would like to try. Very erotic 🙂

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